Losing more friendships now than ever before
Strangest thing. The people most likely to ask me for help and most likely to receive my help because they asked, are the most likely to dismiss me.
What is the explanation for this?
We all have different views and different priorities. Not understanding why people drop other people just because you have different views. Different views spark conversation and new ways of thinking and understanding others. Different views while still being respectful show we have compassion for each other and can respect boundaries.
I don't mind people sharing views, but forcing won't do any good. For example, I've never said do not comply. I've only said question and research, and seek out places where you're not censored so you can receive unbiased, unfiltered information.
I took an hour of my morning to write to a friend that hasn't responded to my messages for over a year. I'm not even sure they read my kind message. Instead they unfriended me without any explanation.
What a strange world we live in.
I voted based on the issues most important to me, not because of charisma or promises or the first this or the first that. Your vote is your vote based on what's most important to you. What's most important to you can be different from what's important to me and vice versa. I accept that, especially when we all experienced or are experiencing different things at different times in life. Your vote is yours, and my vote is mine. Even if you vote differently from me, I will still consider you a friend.
But if you don't like communicating anymore, okay I get. You don't want to be friends anymore, and yes I can accept that too. It's a two-way street, and one person alone can't make a friendship.
"It's a two-way street, and one person alone can't make a friendship."
Or a familial relationship.
Rather than accept that we have differing views(which I voiced but never forced upon) our going on 40 year old daughter has stopped all manner of communication and blocked us from her life and our young teenage grand daughter's life as well. I'm so heartbroken. It's been three years
I think we underestimate how big the cognitive dissidence is for others. People are doubling-down because the reality is a major, major betrayal of their trust. We can only wait until the reality hits, and it may take a few years. And when it does, then try to extend understanding -- something like "of course you believed it, it was the biggest, best-funded, most overwhelming propaganda campaign ever ... and it wasn't your fault that you believed it." I'm not seeing much messaging like this, and I think it could help.